I know, I know, last week I said be vague, but I was talking about different things. When you are promising something, be vague so that they’re happy, but they don’t have any specific image to attach to. Be vague when you’re talking about you. Be specific when you are talking about them.
Your kid is misbehaving. Whether it’s whining about the same thing over and over again in the space of five minutes, throwing a raucous tantrum, making a huge mess, or trying to start a fight with a sibling or any of the other millions of ways a kid can misbehave, they’re doing something they know they shouldn’t be. You’ve asked them to be good. You’ve told them if they don’t behave, x, y and z will be taken away or they’ll go to their room. They don’t care.