Toddlers don’t like compromise. This is a shame. Compromise is one of my main tactics in calming the girls, and since they don’t like it, well, it doesn’t work at all. I keep waiting for the day that they will magically understand how both of them get a little of what they want and it’s the best I can do. I’m not sure that day will ever come.
See, when you have one child, if that child requests something that seems silly to you, but doesn’t really make a different either way, you can humor her, thus avoiding any drama and no one is excessively put out. This would work great for small things that don’t have much bearing on the overall parenting or parent/child control battle. You certainly wouldn’t want to allow the child to run into traffic if that’s what she wanted to do, but if she needs to take a bite of sandwich on the couch instead of in the kitchen (in my house) that’s a bendable rule, and I’m okay with her making that decision.
Of course, what inevitably happens is that the other twin decides arbitrarily that under no circumstances should anyone take a bite of anything anywhere but the kitchen. Now, I’m stuck.